Aaahh, the month of love. It’s here. For romantics like myself, this is the month we get a free pass to indulge in love: from books, to music, to movies. Literally, me all year round, but it’s nice to have (at least) one month of universally recognised allowance ♥
So, as we step into the doorway of a new month, there a couple of practices I am intent on, which I thought I’d share with y’all.
Do something valiant that puts you well into actualising your aspirations. Do it. Don’t wait to have a perfect plan. Here is the thing, you’re not necessarily born courageous. Even if you are, if you don’t exercise your putting-yourself-out-there muscle, it becomes less familiar. As Brene Brown puts it, “Courage is…a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.” Do stuff that scares you, that you wouldn’t ordinarily do-as long as that’s what your dream calls for. One of my favourite questions in January was, “Are you doing it because of how you want to be perceived or are you doing it because of what you want to achieve?” Focus on what you want for yourself, in your hearts of hearts, and follow through. In love, family, friendship, work…be audacious, as often as possible. Do it afraid. Life offers us plenty of opportunities to act courageously, and though we might not always act courageously, let’s try to choose courage more times than not.
Wake Up Earlier
Hands up if you know you love your sleep! Sometimes, a little too much? Now, I don’t know about you but I am tired of rushing and stressing through my AM. I am so keen on training my body to wake up earlier this month. You get more done when you’re up early. I 110% believe that the first hour of your day sets the tone for the rest of the day. So then, it’s not simply a matter of waking up early as much it is what you do with that extra time of productivity: pray, get your mind and spirit right, exercise, make a good breakfast, listen to some good music. Whatever you choose to do, have a consistent morning ritual. Whenever I start my days off like this, I feel better prepared to handle whatever comes my way. Wake up earlier, and don’t let Facebook be the first thing that gets your attention. The key is to start slow: aim to wake up 15 minutes earlier, put you alarm far from your bed, sleep earlier, I could go on, or you could read this.
Take Care Of Your Body
I’ve been so keen on body care: from what I eat (the struggle), to what goes on my skin, what I drink and putting more effort into exercise. Not particularly because I have Draya Michele body goals (though this is a big part, If I’m honest :D) but because I feel healthier, and better about myself when I do. The greatest investment you will ever make is yourself. Drink more water this month. Take your vitamins. Exfoliate your skin. Have a couple more makeup free days than usual.
Replace Negative Influences
One of man’s most common and futile practices is resistance to life. When something that we do not like happens, we tend to fight it. Acceptance is key. Life becomes so much easier when you flow. Surrender to God’s will for your life. Trust your journey. Another common habit is “negativity bias” where we tend to be more attentive to disapproving tendancies than positive affirmations. Has someone ever complimented you like “Wow! You look so nice today!” and as you process the compliment think “Uhh, kwani how do I normally look?” Be more attuned to optimism and gratitude than doubt and negativity. Be hard on yourself in a way that pushes you to do better and not out of unrealistic pressure to be perfect. You have nothing to prove. You’re already validated. It’s okay to fall. It’s even better to fall, and get back up. Just live simply; like you want to make this world a better place, for you and for me. Yes I did get that from Heal the world, the late MJ.
Sprinkle kindness like confetti! After all, it is the month of love. Ever had of lollipop moments? Small acts of kindness go a long way. Extend these to yourself, and to others. Smile more at people. Not those fake pursed lip smiles. Smile wholeheartedly. Be more giving of your time to others. You’ll be amazed at how much happiness kindness brings to others, even more at how much joy it gives you.
Yes I know. I love my avocados!
Love and Love,