Quarter Life Crisis

Adulting is not easy…

but you already know that.

I’m at the quarter life crisis stage. From what I have read, it happens somewhere between your mid 20s and early 30s. My transition from university to being a working adult has been unsettling. Life just seems harder than it’s been; not in terms of challenges per se, but with regard to my interaction with it.

You are forever, at different junctions and varying intensity, in self discovery.

I’d like to think I am not the only one who has ever felt stuck; not knowing what next, yet somehow constantly worried about it. At crossroads; unsure of so much, myself included. Feeling lost, and knowing that I am not living up to my potential. Crossroads, with an overwhelming need for everything to be okay.

I want to enjoy my youth, but with the stability of adulthood.

I strongly believe that there are endless opportunities to grow, and this is one of them. I am remaining open to the process, the becoming, the growing pains. I am set on making this a period of elevation; a fine chance to reroute, rather than back down.

If anything, I want to be more honest in my art, my expression and in the way I live.

What is Quarter Life Crisis teaching me so far?

  • Joy is deliberate. Whenever you find yourself in a rut, happiness may appear furthest from your reach. However, everything you need to stay rooted in joy, is within you. If you depend on external circumstances you will always be searching. You’ve got to work at your Spirit. Joy is experienced on purpose.
  • You will be misunderstood. Many have a lot to say. Many have their hopes and wishes for how you should live, what you should do, where you should go. Many judge, and try to impose. When you feel lost, the world’s noise is suddenly louder than your own. Be graceful, in your dealings with the noise. For some, their input comes from a place of love. Nonetheless, remember to honour yourself, even when you are in doubt. Listen to life’s whispers, and follow your purpose, in whatever small way it is revealed. Lastly, whatever you do, try, strongly, not to compare yourself nor your journey, with anyone else’s.
  • Work is life. Giving yourself to what you love will empty you out sometimes, but keep giving anyway. Know your why, and honour that. In everything: manifestation of self love and dreams, relationships, staying fit, in whatever meaningful pursuit: work and effort are a common denominator. Don’t play yourself by slipping up on things you care about. Intention.
  • Be entirely yours, first. One of the best things you will ever do, is focus on yourself. Love yours. Create from a place that fills you up, rather than a place that tries to please others. Spend time getting to know and nourish you.
  • God is everything. Ultimately, He is the Source. The more time I spend in God’s presence, the clearer things seem, even if for that time only. A matter of Faith, yet God is all I am 100% sure of.

Keep pushing, keep growing, keep blooming.

Happy Mothers Day in advance, to all our amazing mum’s and mum figures!

Love and Love,

Nyambura.

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7 Comments Add yours

  1. Kai Mungai says:

    It’s obvious that happens though I’m not yet 30 but truth is, try accepting transit and hardships as part of life. They’ll melt down swift.

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  2. Oh mannies! It took me years and so many very very difficult situations to understand that joy is indeed intentional. But you know what? I wouldn’t have had it any other way 💜 Thank you for this refreshing piece

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    1. Thank you, for reading and sharing! I agree, we wouldn’t grow without the rain 🙂

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  3. *snappingfingers
    Happiness is perspective.

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  4. Nice read
    I think am in that place in my life too.
    I have to admit, this post encourages me 🙂

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    1. Glad to hear Judith! We got this!

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